Just For Women
All right gals, it's our time to chat. As you have already read from our home page, we are not professionals and we are only trying to help people with some of their questions through things that we have gone through. Steve & I have been married for 45+ years and we are going strong. That doesn't mean we haven't had our share of problems, we have, but if you love someone with your whole heart, you will do whatever you need to, to work through the trials and tribulations. Believe me, I can truly say that I love Steve more today than I did when we got married in 1971. Of course we had AWESOME examples of what Love can conquer. Both of our parents were together until death parted them in 2000. Neither of our Dads were interested in finding other partners, as once you've experienced the best, there is no one who could compare, to their wives. They stayed widowers until they passed away in 2004.
Remember to tell your husbands daily that you love them, as no one is guaranteed tomorrow. A hug and kiss will go along way, read
A Trucker’s Last Letter to remind you how fast your life can be gone, so don't forget to tell your husbands how much you love them and appreciate them daily. I know that I do and I have a richer marriage because of it.
This is a hard one. I have always struggled with trying to get my feelings across, as I have felt that what I have to say doesn’t really matter. That was do to the feelings of insecurities that I always seemed to have hanging over my head. I felt that what I had to offer was stupid, and that I wasn’t as smart as someone who had more schooling than me. Then I came across the letter
I’m Special. If you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, now would be a perfect time to do so.
One way that I have overcome these feelings, is to go for walks with Steve. We used to walk in the evenings and we would just talk. It’s funny how when you are relaxed, you just naturally have a tendency to “open” up the lines of communication. We talk about anything that comes to mind, Whether it be a problem that we can’t seem to get the answer to, or just how much I love him. You cannot tell your spouse too much how much you appreciate and love him. We have a saying in our house that goes like this, “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I (we) may not agree with that opinion, but you are entitled to it anyway.” There are times that Steve and I do not agree on things, but through the lines of communication, we always seem to come to an agreement. It is not one person always giving in to the other, but it is coming to a compromise when you can’t totally agree on something. Maybe just change the situation a little and the problem will not seem as large as it did before.
I am a great listener, but that is not what communication is about. It is about SHARING your thoughts and your feelings for that matter with another person. What that other person has to input may be just what you are needing at the time. They may have the answer that has so eluded you up to this point.
Remember, that if you fail to communicate what you are feeling, you are setting yourself up for failure in your relationships. If someone has offended you in some way, you need to confront that matter, or it will just fester. You know what happens when you have a wound that gets infected. It gets all infected and ugly looking, and you don’t want your attitude to get that way. You want to be the best wife that you can be. All these tips can also apply towards any other relationships that you might have, Parents, Children, Girlfriends, Male friends, co-workers, you name it. Everyone needs someone to talk with that they can just let their hair down, so to speak, and not have to worry about being judged. Remember, we are not to judge lest we be judged in return.
I hope these tips have helped you out. I have to daily remind myself that communication is a good thing. It helps me be me. If you want to leave a comment for me, visit our
contact page. I think it’s time for a walk.